The difficulty of communication between people, to understand the difficulty, we have deep experience. Aside other people's understanding and their own problems do not say, if you often feel that others can not understand you, you ought to think about is their own why.
For these reasons, from shallow and deep, no more than four species.
First of all, because you did not tell others what you think or you tell it does not make clear. This situation is a lot to see. Such as the girls always love her boyfriend angry, feel themselves in the end he did not understand what is required. Young man said, you did not tell me how do I know ah? The girl even more angry, since you love me, then you should know what I need ... ah ...
A mature woman, I spent 15 years of marriage, finally know the man is a woman does not have the ability to understand animals, if you do not say he would not know, will not do; so I what you want, directly, clearly, specifically told him that the result is he can do so I am very satisfied. Although a little something to guess the mystery and romance, but a lot more understanding and harmony.
Secondly, because you subconsciously do not want others to understand you. Subconscious is a strange thing, it is often able to detect with your own ideas contrary. The following is the story of a girl -
Years ago, she also met two boys, A and B. She had a good impression on the A the outset, but her behavior shows the opposite: A Hengmeilengdui her, but enthusiasm for the B plus, which makes a favorable impression she had on the A slowly away from her, making the B began her gallant. They have misunderstood her message. Not help her slip into the marriage, with predictable results. Then A knows the girl is like his original, Henji own stupid. However, this is not really blame him, because the girl's subconscious did not want to let A know at that time she loved.
Individual people do not understand your third reason is that you do not understand themselves. Everyone will agree that such a view: in the self-understanding of this point, whether you make too many big effort to get many results, you can completely understand your own, there are always some things about yourself, you do not know . You do not know, how could let others know?
Finally, a situation where someone else has to understand you, even in some ways for you to understand, more comprehensive than your own, deeply, but you do not know, still there is people do not understand you and sad. There is a story that a horse that he is an ordinary horse, horses said it was Maxima, it can realize that he was indeed a rare Mercedes-Benz horses thousands of miles without fatigue. If the horse because the horses with their own views views on conflict, it is understood that the horses themselves, it would mean giving up his chance when the Maxima. Therefore, even if it seems like for someone else's "misunderstanding" view, but also think carefully about what's necessary.
Of course, if you too care about other people's understanding, is the problem. Understanding between people, can not insist, and insist to understand is ill-defined, narcissistic state. If you can understand each other, of course, is a good thing; if it is with some people reach mutual understanding of the state, it does not matter, do not understand well. In fact, you think so, and it means you have to understand this relationship can not be a mutual understanding. In this sense, do not understand is to understand itself.
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